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shayjax-

I’m going with ragebait. Even though there are people like her.


arceus555

100%. These parents exist, but they aren't asking if they are in the wrong.


unsaferaisin

Did a lot of competitive dance as a teenager who gave birth at 16, did you? Look, stage parents fucking suck, but this story is just incredibly lazy. No way this isn't some kid mad that mom and dad are making them stick with piano lessons or language school or whatever other enrichment activity that is probably actually good for them but which feels very dorky to a teenager.


RaZZeR_9351

Oh I'm sure this kind of story happens, I just can't believe that woman would write that on this sub and not see how obviously an AH she would be, it might be the kid writing for sure.


unsaferaisin

Yeah, stage parents are never, ever that self-aware. I deal with a fair share of them professionally working in youth theatre and performing arts, and there's always this level of delusion that's missing from that post. They make excuses like it's so hard on them, but the kid who is clearly stressed/miserable loves it so much the family makes the sacrifice, or they talk about some grand college-application plan that makes no mention of what the kid wants out of their own future. This was too straightforward, leading me to suspect that it's a teen who's old enough to correctly identify their parent's bullshit, but still young enough to want the validation of hearing people saying, "Yeah, that's unreasonable."


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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for not allowing my daughter to quit competitive dance?** There seems to be a glitch with my previous post :( I, f30, have a daughter, Lili, f14. We just moved states (husband is in the army) and she’ll be going to a new school soon and she’s deciding on her new subjects. She did French last year and did extremely well (was way ahead in her class) but she spent a lot of time after school studying for that one language, she said she had fun doing it (doubtful) and enjoyed it very much. I need to add that Lili does competitive dance which means that she doesn’t have much time left after school. I did competitive dance as a child and I know how hard it is to find time for studying. She came to me the other day telling me that her new school doesn’t offer French but they offer Spanish and she wanted to take it and asked me if I could sign her up to private French classes so she can learn both languages. I told her that absolutely not that with her dance she won’t have time for that and it’s too dfifficult of a subject, taking too much of her time. She told me that she hasn’t been enjoying dance for a while and was too scared to tell me but she wants to quit dance. She told me that she wants to study languages and work with that when she’s an adult. I told her that she won’t be quitting dance because she’s too good at it and I already put in a lot of money and that she doesn’t need to know other languages, she’ll get by with English just fine. Of course, as teenagers do, she threw a fit and run to her room. She accused me of living vicariously through her (when the hell did a 14 year old learn that phrase though) and I grounder her for it. She hasn’t talked to me since this morning. My husband came back from work and asked me what happened and I explained it to him and she told me that I should consider letting her quit dance that languages are a useful skill. Apparently, they always look for people who speak languages and it’ll be better than dance for her future. I told him I did’t want to talk to him anymore and called my sister to vent. Surprisnlgy, my sister took my husbands and Lili’s side and she joked that I should post here if I don’t believe her. So I decided to give it a try. AITA for not allowing my daughter to quit dance and take language classes instead? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*


Chinablind

I just finished my last year as a dance mom. My daughter loves competition dance, I hated it but supported her. Yes there are moms like this on the team, no they are not asking anyone else if they are right. Some (a lot) of those moms are insane. That type of mom is way too busy living through their kid to ever question if they could be wrong. Some of the moms were full on sobbing at the last showcase just devastated not to be involved in dance anymore. Just no awareness that it was supposed to be about the girls. These moms would be posting about how terrible everyone is to be criticizing them, when they are sacrificing so much for the betterment of their precious child.


RaZZeR_9351

Yeah, I have no doubt these people exists for real, but no way they would make that post.