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Touching my boobs when I’m bored, they’re the softest thing. Also, love the feeling when sleeping on my stomach.
How nice the female body actually is, it’s so aesthetically nice.
Seriously, feeling the warmth of my boobs is a stress reliever
When I'm cold or suffering cramps or something it's just so nice to hold them
Also when my hands are cold at night I put them right in between my thighs and I think it’s the nicest, softest, warmest place
This is the only part I like. Every other part is dehumanizing hell.
"The female body is a work of art. The male body is utilitarian. It's for gettin' around. It's like a jeep."
My mother’s side of the family calls it the casual left handed boob grab. Not even an intentional thing, just happens.
Being okay with liking feminine things or feeling feminine at all. When I was growing up, girls looked down on wearing makeup, being into fashion, and doing anything girly. If you were a girly girl you were shallow, ditzy, and not woke. I wouldn't go anywhere near the color pink and remember being embarrassed when a guy friend saw me painting my nails. Watching sports, ordering a beer instead of a cocktail, or talking about liking only certain music (usually always male vocals) made you cool.
Like whatever you damn well please. If I want to wear a pink dress and rock out to metal while knitting in front of the playoffs with a martini next to me, I will, thank you very much
Yup came here to say just being feminine, nothing wrong with that!
Umm, that sounds rad
This 1000000% it took me years to break out of this and I'm still learning but now I have no shame over liking previous *girly* things
That sounds like a great time!
Wait, I’m really curious where you grew up? :)
Just in a normal middle class suburb in NY state. Well funded school districts but families weren't rich. Graduated highschool in 2012.
Yesss, I also like that there is usually far more choice in clothes for women = creative freedom. You find the craziest things. More colors, more different shapes, fuzzy pink jackets with teddy ears for instance, try finding smth like this for men on a normal shopping trip!
I love that I'm allowed to display my emotions. I have 5 brothers and they were always treated poorly for having normal feelings. I'm glad I can cry and people are still nice to me if not completely supportive.
But women are only allowed to display some emotions, not all.
Men are only allowed to express anger and get treated badly if they cry.
Women are only allowed to cry and get treated badly if they express anger or frustration at others. They get called bitches, or demeaned in other ways, and seldom get taken seriously.
I don’t think society is inherently *better* at allowing women to be emotional. I think it puts men and women both in very strict boxes of what kind of emotions are acceptable for them to express.
Yup, this. Boobs are pretty great.
I have really big boobs, like they should cause back pain but I have the shoulders for them Kinda big. I hate them when I need to buy clothes, and they’re inconvenient in summer but they are *excellent* at weeding out shallow men and they’re soft and nice which is confirming
How do you use them to weed out shallow men?
Case in point, I got a DM from a guy off the back of this post saying that he ‘wanted my boobies as a plaything’. So, he proved the point, but didn’t have the balls to do it publicly.
Shallow men don’t look you in the eye….they look you in the boob
My reproductive system. Like I still hate my periods, and I have no plans of having children (or at least giving birth)
But holy *fuck* when I figured out how to have sex properly… the orgasms make everything feel worth it sometimes
Also the security of knowing you aren’t pregnant. Like at least we have a built in signsly
Yes the orgasms!!! And if I may add, finally finding a contraceptive that fits you ! Mine took away 90% of my horrible menstrual pain, and I only have to think about it once a month. I really love the vaginal ring, I could talk about it for hours
The nuvaring? I am considering this right now. Can you please share your experience?
Well it's expensive in my country (30 euros for 3 months), but it's so worth the price ! I've been prescribed the nuvaring because the pills, the contraceptive implant, and both type of IUD made me hurt and bleed too much, so I really only had that option left, it's a translucid ring, you press it and it stays for 4 weeks in a row ! You can't lose it once it's inside. It's a really high dose of hormones so if it fits you, you'll know it real quick. Oh and penises feel the ring, but it doesn't create any discomfort. I finally have regular periods, and without any debilitating pain !!!
Thank you! I've also tried a few of those other options and want to see how well the nuvaring might suit me. For some reason, I thought you were supposed to take the ring out during sex?
Eta: I completely understand the pain you've experienced with the other options.
I used to think that too, and I thought you were supposed to put it at the end of your vagina or else it wouldn't work ! And I thought it would fall all the time lol
age better than men
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Do you though?
Being kind of a girl-girl. I was a tomboy growing up and I don’t think anyone would describe me as “feminine” now but I’ve grown into liking a lot of girly things.
This. I grew up with all brothers and showing any signs of femininity came with criticism. Like even now I’m trying to get out of thinking that wearing make up is bad or means that I’m insecure about my looks. But there’s nothing wrong with enhancing what you have and enjoying “girly” things.
I grew up with a family of tomboys, my mom was a tomboy, my sister was a tomboy, my aunt was a tomboy. I grew up in a class full of only boys, my cousins near my age were boys. I basically grew up around them? I'd play football, get dirty in mud, wrestle, but I'd still enjoy going back, sitting beside my aunt when she got in her sewing moods, and she'd teach me how. She also taught me how to crochet, and even had me develop my love of reading even if it took years for it to happen.
The stretch marks I got from pregnancy.
Got a few of them too, but from no pregnancy.
Same. I'm kind of fascinated by my 'flaws' and the changes in my body over the years.
They're like life tatoos :")
Today I told this to my girlfriend about her stretchmarks: Damn girl, you are such a bombshell that you look that you are going to explode (in spanish makes a lot of sense, I dont know if it equals to english). They look like tiger stripes too, I'm using that later.
I call them my tiger stripes!
I used to tell my kids that freddy Krueger almost got me once
I never disliked anything about being a woman.
Same. I like it.
It’s funny how a lot of us have learned to appreciate our boobs!
I always felt self-conscious about mine ( started wearing a bra at 8) and tried to hide them for a long time. Over time, I have come to love them and appreciate their service. Lol. They have fed my three little ones, and they still look great! Not too big, not too small. Perfect orbs of femininity.
All boobs are great boobs!
You’re not wrong!
Also they are a handy pillow for small animals and children!
Just maybe not cats..learnt that the hard way.
Getting my period. Especially when I’m synced with the moon. I feel so connected and feminine
Thats kind of a magical way of looking at it. It should be something sacred
Yes! It used to be very sacred and women were considered to be at their most intuitive and powerful
Really in what cultures? I think religion could have done some good by making it special, shame our boring monotheistic religions all see women as meaningless and inferior
What does synced with the moon mean here?
When the first day you bleed falls on the day of a full moon or new moon
Yes! It's like the changing seasons for me. I love having a winter for rest, spring for new beginnings, etc. And a period is just a mini version of that. Take my troubles of the month out and let me start over!
Being able to get away when not adhering to strict dress code (business attire) for work
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The range of colorful clothes I can wear and even get away with wearing Mens T-shirts
Sleeping with boobs
what changed your mind?
Being perceived as sensual or s*xual. I totally enjoy having pictures or clips of myself (where I feel comfortable in) and see the reactions of people I show them off to. I'm a bigger girl and yet I've got quite some nice comments and reactions and I love how this makes me feel.
and the ability to actually carry a child for 9 months
Being feminine. It was always a bad thing to be 'girly' when I was growing up (see: boys saying 'girly' or similar when they meant 'weak'). So it took me a couple of decades to appreciate that I can and do enjoy my femininity.
Curves. Dresses. Makeup. Even my period. Honestly it has gotten so much better now. It used to be heavy when I was in my teen years. In adulthood, the first day is heavy but the rest of the week is a breeze. Also, touch wood, I rarely get cramps.
Same. I’m 41 and I am dreading going through the menopause. Just the thought of it absolutely terrifies me. I enjoy getting my period.
No worries it is not something you need to fear. The hot flashes are a pain but not as bad as periods. My hair is dryer. I feel great not having to have a period. My were miserable they lasted long and I felt terrible. You will do fine.
I needed to hear this, thank you x
I did not stop having periods until I was 50. You have time probably or if you know when your mom reached menopause you will probably be about the same. Good luck.
I just found out I'm post menopause. Besides a brief period of raging mood swings around my cycle, and night sweats I had no clue. I use an iud so I don't get a period
Really no periods with IUD. Never knew that.
I didn't at all. Only when the replaced the old one, then it lasted for a month. I never got one with the depo shot either
The shot I have heard of not having a period I did not know with an IUD. Interesting
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Fear??!! It’s not the end of the world!
For you, maybe. I’m allowed to feel however I want about it.
don't they suck?
Yes and no.
They don't because 1. you're not pregnant, 2. you get a few days of the beginning of the period to be lazy without feeling guilty, 3. no sex for a week without feeling guilty to your bf or hub.
Please don't ever feel guilty for not wanting to have sex.. That's not a healthy way to look at yourself in a relationship, you don't owe the other person anything.
> you get a few days of the beginning of the period to be lazy without feeling guilty
ok, I can definitly see the appeal in that.
They do. They totally suck.
Me, too. I love being on a cycle and having a week of the month where I'm really present in my body and can be inward and rest without guilt. As a trauma survivor, all of these details make my period a welcome reprieve.
I'm finally okay with having muscles that show. When I was younger I never wanted that because I didn't consider it to be feminine. But if women have muscles when they work out, that makes muscles feminine too! Nowadays I do pole so I build biceps pretty quickly and I'll show them off to anyone and everyone.
muscles are awesome.
Yup for me it’s also periods because for me the lack of a period usually means my anemia has gotten so bad that I need a transfusion. I’d rather have one despite all the pain and heavy
Flow and pretending I’m not dying at work.
My period! I mean it’s not always the best but I love having a monthly health check. Your cycle says so much about your internal health and I love being able to analyze what parts of my lifestyle, foods, supplements, etc affect my cycle and overall health.
The chubbiness in my lower stomach that I've had since puberty. I call it my "baby warming pouch". If Aphrodite had one, then I can embrace mine!
I like getting my period. It comes on a normal cycle and it reminds me I’m fertile, feminine and not pregnant when I don’t want to be right now. I have a good relationship with it. I appreciate how consistent it is. And since I started appreciating it, I don’t get so bad cramps or pain.
Also, I love just having a vagina and female parts. There are so many different types of orgasms. Some days I want one just at the entrance, sometimes the g spot, sometimes the cervix. Sometimes clit and sometimes anal. I don’t think men have so many “spots” nor are their orgasms as intense and long lasting as ours.
I also love how being a woman has power over men and sometimes even woman. Using a warm personality in a feminine way gets people magnetized towards you and favors granted. I also love how I can just pull out a boob and a man gets hard. POWER OF THE PSSUY!
I am 🧲!
Having cramps when I ovulate! Makes the counting easier ^^
Being able to ask for help.
Being able to finally feel comfortable around wearing feminine clothes, and with the whole concept of femininity itself. I love to be femenine, I love being a women and our body is so wonderful!
My breasts. Not in a sexual way. Sorta just an overall “you know maybe these things arent that bad” type situation. Sleep on your stomach ladies, its not too bad
Self care routines and the “getting ready” process to go out.
Girly things like bath bombs and pink! I was called a "tomboy" as a child and found little joy in it. Now I embrace the masculine and feminine energies I have.
All of it. We’re fucking legendary and arguably the most underrated creatures on earth.
Boobs, cause I tuck them in my sports bra and have been since middle school.
THIS IS GOING TO SOUND AWFUL, BUUUUUUT....
Being able to get away with things by pretending to cry or be really upset, growing up I got into a lot of shady situations, at parties, at school, with friends, with family, at work, whenever I was about to get into serious trouble I'd just start pretending to cry and all of a sudden things were okay, I was late for work once and my boss was insanely mad with me, I started fake crying and he dropped the whole thing and acted like nothing happened
I don't do it nowadays because I don't get into situations where it's needed anymore, but I realized that as a woman you can get away with quite a lot of stuff compared to guys, if guys started crying to get out of a situation they'd be laughed at or just get fired...or both
But as a woman I feel everyone rushes to comfort you and make sure you're okay, and because of that I feel like I can wiggle out of any bad situation I get into
Is that bad?
Is weaponizing your victimhood bad? Yes, absolutely imo.
>Is that bad?
yes. yes it is.
Yeah, and it makes all of us look bad.
Lol you get -1 point for manipulative behavior but +2 points for awareness and honesty. So overall you are doing great 😉
Boobs n’ curves
Being able to have babies. I never wanted kids until six months ago when I meant someone I'd do anything to have a baby with, so I always thought pregnancy was such a curse. But as someone who DOES want a baby now, having the ability to grow one myself is such a blessing because I can always get a sperm donation even if I don't have a partner. But men who wants kids but don't have a partner are super SOL
Being pregnant. I know the experience is different for everyone, and there were difficult aspects… but as a whole I absolutely loved being pregnant and feeling my baby growing inside of me.
I’ve always loved having super long hair even when it’s inconvenient to maintain.
I'm petite and I work in a field that demands labor. Many people assume I can't do certain physical tasks like lifting heavy things. I'm in my early 20s, I'm pretty fit, and I'm flexible, but I also have a lot of chronic pain. I can do things, but it hurts like hell for days later. So sometimes I lean into this assumption and allow others to do heavy lifting.
I love I can wear skirts and dresses.
When I was a teen I was so ashamed of showing my legs, it was like a big deal.
Growing up I realized dresses and skirts are just waaaay more comfortable and I’m glad I can wear those every day!
My body. I grew up with 3 brothers and all my cousins were male. I also lived with just my dad for a bit. I NEVER wore feminine clothing or anything revealing. I cut my hair short, never wore makeup, only wore running shorts and t shirts because I was embarrassed of being womanly. When i started going through puberty I ran and biked non stop to try to make my butt and thighs smaller. I wore sports bras and board shorts at the beach. I'm 24 now and it's taken me so long to love my body. I'm slim thick and im proud
how long i take to get ready to go out.
i love spending hours on showering, doing my hair, putting on makeup, and outfit picking and then the selfie session after.
i love setting the mood with music or a good podcast, a bowl, some wine or even sparkling cider, a good spot by the window for natural light and doing it all while naked is just heavenly and honestly the best thing i love about being an adult woman and something i’ve learned to love an appreciation each year that goes by
I've learned to love my body and embrace my femininity and sensuality.
All of it? 14 year old me would be appalled.
That I can show and talk about my emotions. It seems like weakness on the surface, but I would have lost my mind if I couldn't do that. I think a lot of guys get ulcers because they're not supposed to.
Nothing really I suppose….
I do enjoy having slender hands I guess. Making crafting certain things easier!
Having my nails done. I used to hate waiting for nail polish to dry. I also am a horrible nail biter. Having false nails makes me feel so much better and stops me from biting my actual nails. I do them myself and it’s my “me time” after the kids go to bed
That you should always be dressed to impress when you are at school/work. Or anywhere outside for that matter.
nothing i hate being a girl
So many of you have said boobs. I wish. I remember at age 10 getting my first training bra and being excited for when I got real boobs. I’ve been pregnant and breastfed and still a AA lmao
I hate having boobs but sometimes just taking my shirt off and holding them lmao
femininity and expressing it
Flirting to get what I want.
I grew up hating being a female. Never wanted to play into men’s desires. Hating the inequality between the two sexes.
However, as I got older, I started to realize something. If men naturally have advantages in the world, simply because they have a penis then why can’t I use my advantages!?
If I can get something by flirting (or being a “suck up”) and I’m not hurting anyone then you better believe I will continue flirting to get what I want!! It’s how I use what’s good about me to get what I want and I’m not ashamed of it. I should also add that to use flirting effectively, you need to know a time and place when it is and isn’t appropriate.
(I should add that I’m not going to flirt/marry a rich old man for money. I mean, I use it to win over clients at work or get on my boss’ good side)
Beauty routines. I was a play in the mud, resist the femininity kinda girl growing up. To this day I’m still trying to take down the patriarchy haha. But I harbored a fuck ton of stress and some illnesses that affected my hair, skin, teeth, and nails so I was suffering a lot without a routine. Self care with products like a quality hair serum or lotion is calming for me and it’s quite nice for me to go splurge on something small but special. I have a variety of hand creams for my cracked, scaly mechanic hands for example. I have a lot of aromatherapy items at home so I can mentally distance myself from the environment I experience every day at work and that distance allows me to focus on me-time and recharging.
My period! It allows me to participate so intimately in the circle of life - what a truly miraculous, precious thing!
That nobody can change me to change my body
My emotional side. It’s powerful when used correctly
Lack of arm strength
Wearing high heel’s and the feeling they give me.
That we're allowed to wear colours and patterns. I used to dress very drably, in dark plain colours, and while I still do from time to time I always try and have a really bright accessory, like a snazzy headband or fun scarf. I feel so sorry for dudes. Their clothes are so boring and they all seem to know it, and yet nothing changes!
Okay this is super tmi but I learned to love the way my vulva looks. And I also learned that it was okay to actually enjoy sex...
God i love my legs so much
Tracking my cycle, not just for when my period actually starts, but my cycle for the entire month. My emotions / mental health works like clockwork as the days of the months go on. Always in the exact same order, so I always know what to expect from myself, and when to expect it. It’s actually really interesting.
Why do you like that, tho?
Lmao I am soo sorry I read the question wrong. I thought it said "what aspect of being a women have you learned" and I've learned that a lot of men will hit on you. Again I am soo sorry 😅
Ohhh okay, I get it now, haha. No worries, I was just confused for a sec 😆
Periods. I hated them for the first 4 years but now I feel like it’s something just “ between us girls “ that makes us closer
getting periods hehe
Every woman can have her own opinion about having her period. You do you.