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MoosieGoose

My mother ran out of the house in the middle of the night. My father beat her within inches of her life many times, one time it broke her. She took us, and she ran. Screaming so loud that the neighbors called the cops. They called CPS & took us out of there. We'd all be dead if my mother didn't save us. We could have been gunned down in our own driveway, but that was better than what was happening. Fight for your children. You are all they have. You have more strength than you know. Please don't leave them.


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OGBueno

Your kids are proof enough, kids usually don’t lie about things like that


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Erica_Peanut

Keep fighting, one day they’ll be old and wonder why you left them


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ubiitema666

You don't realise how far the pit of despair goes dont you. SHE TRIED SHE SCREAMED FOR HELP. No one gave a fuck. Authorities failed this supposed angel. Undeserving people die. Innocent kids are traumatised for life. Welcome to the real world.


organicpaints

It’s jerks like you that take away hope. Make you’re miserable maybe you have issues too. But don’t you dare come on here and take away hope and encouragement from someone else. Your misery doesn’t have to be pushed onto others. Welcome to the real world.


oxnikkii

losing your parent, biggest supporter, and best friend is the worst fucking feeling in the world. its the most pain ive ever been in. its the lowest ive ever been in my life. its ruined me. dont punish them, they NEED you, they NEED a safe space.


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oxnikkii

unfortunately you cant put a timer on that, you can trust in the lord that he will lead you in the right direction but there are somethings he needs us to trust in our selves to do, and when we do them he will reward us, at least thats how i see it. im not all too wise when it comes to that, yknow, im 18, but theres a chance for you, i swear by it.


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organicpaints

You’re so much stronger then you even realize. I don’t have answers and I don’t have a solution but there always has to be a way. If you just hold out let people help. I know it looks so bad right now but just hold out a little longer.


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organicpaints

I’m sorry it’s been so awfully long and I’m sorry so many people have abandoned you and been so unkind. Your children do deserve help. Your family is worth help and saving and I’m sorry you’re in a place with such a terrible legal system.


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No-Vegetable-7172

Please remember OP that whatever actions you take now, your children are likely to as well, since they love you. If you survive this, they too, will learn from you to have the strength to survive and overcome their challenges and be safe one day too. <3


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No-Vegetable-7172

You’re here!!!!!! Finding a way to survive is the most important thing. Death of a parent is considered to be the highest level of trauma a child can go through, and of the types of death, suicide is likely the most traumatic… Do you need to take a vacation to rejuvenate yourself? I feel like you’ve tried too hard for too long to save your kids at too high of a cost for yourself. I feel like you need to shift your energy toward taking better care of yourself so you can continue showing up for your kids in their suffering, even though currently you can’t save them. Even if taking a vacation means leaving your kids at the hands of their abuser for a month or even a year or however long you need, even if you lose custody completely, that’s still incomparably better than taking your own life and never being able to be there for them ever again for the rest of their lives. Is taking a vacation realistic? Also, how old is the youngest? How many more years until they’re all over 18? Would planning for your lives once they’re all over 18 be more encouraging for you and realistic then trying to rescue them now?


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cumssss

If your not the abusive parent to them then just know they love you more then anybody else in the world as much as they may or may not show it. I can relate to this I was abused by my father as a child and my mom was always my light. You will ruin all of the beautiful memories that are still able to be made with them. Who knows where they will end up in this cruel world without the right guidance?


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Lambeeron

Please stay alive for them. They love you and they need you. You love them too, clearly.


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Romarsar

You can, please, talk to us about your feelings, please, it's not too late, you don't deserve this ending.


YallSuccc

People have kids with abusive assholes, then they leave them with abusive assholes. Seriously wtf. Calm down and think about what you're doing. You're gonna ruin your children. Take some damn responsibility


ubiitema666

They are too far gone. True though it would be better to never have kids with the abusive asshole cuz now as much as i resepct OP the children will bear that on their shoulders alone i can only pray for them.


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No-Vegetable-7172

Even though you can’t save them, being there for your kids, exactly as you are, in their misery, is so so valuable and helping them more than you will ever know. One day they will grow up and be able to save themselves, and it will be thanks to your strength in saving yourself, persevering, and being there. Please please stay!


No-Vegetable-7172

Dear OP, this is a very theoretical question: If you would have some sort of prophesy or vision that within a few months, your ex would be dead and you would be safe with your children, would you be able to hold on for those few months until then?


No-Vegetable-7172

I was reading through your posts, OP. You are so so strong, as I’m sure you know, and so capable. I wish I could give you some hope to keep you going! I’m gonna keep trying maybe something will reach you…. <3


No-Vegetable-7172

Dear OP, have you tried reaching out to any of your kids teachers?


No-Vegetable-7172

Have you tried telling them how you feel? Not to get your children away from your ex, but as people who are also on your childrens’ side who can support you in being there for them. What would happen if you reach out to them now and tell them how you feel?


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throwaway332376

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LeslieFrank

I used to do intake on a DV hotline and I know this pandemic* is changing a lot of things but I think they would still be able to discern your situation as truthful and serious and get you and your kids to a safe place--even help with transportation, although I'm talking as a US citizen; dunno how it works in your neck of the woods, but it shouldn't be too different. If it is different, and you're about ready to check out, do it saving your kids. If he kills you in the process, wouldn't the police do a double take on him? Maybe take the kids away from him? Sorry if I'm repeating things you already know, but get all your papers and your kids' papers together; shouldn't need to pack clothes cuz the kinds of shelters dv orgs get you to should provide you with clothing and other personal effects, get cash (he might trace your credit cards), yours/kids health cards (this is actually a tough one if he's the subscriber cuz hipaa** doesn't apply to the kids so he can trace where you've all been if you seek health services; of course, if you're the subscriber, then that's safer). It's actually been years since I was a volunteer so you should have a long talk with the dv folks in your area about what to do but maybe not call from home (yeah, I'm paranoid in these kinds of situations). All the best in whatever you do. Try and stay strong to save your kids--just imagine how happy you would all be together and safe (yes, it might seem pie in the sky, but it's possible and you can make it possible, possibly with some help...) *actually, the pandemic is exacerbating dv so they should be more empathetic of your situation **dunno if you have something like hipaa where you are, but in the US, it's supposed to keep your medical information confidential


No-Vegetable-7172

It really comes across how much you love your children <3. Please, is there anything you can think of at all that might possibly help you carry on?


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throwaway332376

Where are you from? Iceland? Russia? Isle of Man? Guinea?


SpareRutabaga8416

You’re leaving your children in the hands of an abuser? It’s not up to god to help them, it’s up to you. I understand you’re in a horrible place, but you have kids now. It’s up to you to make sure they’re ok. Make sure your kids have one parent that isn’t an abuser…


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throwaway332376

It’s not time, call them, call the police call for help don’t end your life, please


No-Vegetable-7172

OP? I hope you stay <3


Ochinch1n

Nah that's selfish as hell, you ain't going to no heavenly doors if you leave your kids in the hands of that abuser. Don't stop at NOTHING to save them. And give me that "too tired" BS, what would your kids think if they saw you saying that? Never give up, even in the face of the impossible, for someone you truly love. Never ever abandon them like that, because that's what they'll think you did, if you do this.


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spacealexander

you have to try, its a worthy fight and you can do it


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spacealexander

Get in contact with support networks in your area, domestic abuse helplines and womens abuse centers. Contact their school and get social aid through the councilors. Keep fighting, and give them a life worth living with you.


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spacealexander

Making social workers and helplines familiar with your case helps with support and eventually liberating your children. There is people put there who care, even if it seems impossible.


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spacealexander

That is why you have to keep contacting people, find support to back your word and your perspective, make people know what is happening to your kids and don't let them just stay abused. If your kids see you fighting, it'll give them strength too. Hope for freedom is what so many abused kids cling to, and you fighting for them will make so much headway for them, in the longrun. The support you give them is what they come back to. They need you just as much as you need them, and for them to be safe. You are an amazing mother that is being drawn to your ends by a situation that will pass and things will get better, but you have to keep fighting.


Educational-Kick-158

Know you’re not alone in this and that you are loved. Especially by your children. Don’t do this


hxnimetv

I think the person died


Educational-Kick-158

Yeah…I haven’t seen an update


boobeezzz

hurts making me know someone took their life today and this is probably the last thing they ever did on their phone


hxnimetv

please stay.


W3ndigoGames

OP? You still with us? If you are… please call the police and get help for your kids. Please. I know what it’s like to lose a parent and they shouldn’t have to go through that, just please call the cops.


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DeprivedOfCummiies

I know. I surely have. Live in it everyday. I understand OP, really. And I’m not judging. Genuinely with my whole heart, hope things get better for you. If I wasn’t worthless and broke, I’d see if there was some way I could help.


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DeprivedOfCummiies

Thank you, I hope I do too, somehow. I hope we all make it.


ubiitema666

If you saw a homeless you wouldnt give all your money you have a life and kids maybe or youre single or with a bf/gf. Point is you have your own needs and a lotta ppl dont understand that sometimes ppl can absolutely lose the fight even if they dont deserve it. I wish i could help you too i really fucking do.


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throwaway332376

Still here?


IGotA_Feeling000

OP you have a whole community rooting for you and we have your back, I hope you’re still here.


elitesoulfly

your husband didnt kill you. no matter how big a pos he is. he didnt kill you. and noone will think that. just a heads up. people will not think it is his fault. i know you dont want to hear that. but its truth. people will blame you for this. for giving up. i just hope your children can forgive you. but i wont blame them if they dont. hopefully there father can change and provide a happy home. people do change. if your going your going. but you dont deserve a pat on the back for taking the easy route. and leaving your kids a complete tragic life. sorry but your talking about your kids and blaming your husband way to much. no matter whats hes done it is not as bad as what your about to. realize that


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throwaway332376

This is messed up man please call the cops now and say the father is going to kill your kids, or at least you believe that he is, a belief is not a lie


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throwaway332376

Even if it’s a 1% chance, you need to call the cops and say it right now


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throwaway332376

Mentally is even worse than physically please call the cops right now please it will be worth it PLEASE


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throwaway332376

Tell me the country


oxnikkii

nothern europe is what they said in other threads


anonymic7777

Lol probably US, reporting abuse here does literally nothing except piss off the person probably


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throwaway332376

Here are some laws of child safety in you country The state shall protect and guarantee basic children’s rights in all spheres of public life for all groups of children in view of the age, social status, physical, health and mental development, as providing appropriate economic, social and cultural environment, education, freedom of expression and security. (3) The state policy for child protection shall be determined by the Council of Ministers, which shall adopt a national programme for child protection, proposed by the minister of labour and social policy and the chairperson of the state agency for child protection.


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throwaway332376

These are the measures they legally have to take, you need to be blunt and not sugar coat it at all Protection measures Article 4. (1) Child protection under the present Act shall be carried out through: 1. assistance, support and services rendered in the child's family environment; 2. placement of the child with relatives or close families; 3. adoption – in accordance with the Family Code; 4. placement of the child with a foster family; 5. placement of the child in a specialised institution; 6. police protection; 7. specialised protection at public places; 8. provision of information with regard to the rights and obligations of children and parents; 9. provision of preventative measures for security and protection of the child; 11. provision of legal assistance by the state; 12. specialised care for children with physical and mental disabilities.


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throwaway332376

Call them again right now


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throwaway332376

If you make it serious enough they’ll have no choice but to take the kids away and investigate


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throwaway332376

It can save you and your kids, get you custody so it will be worth it


throwaway332376

You still here?


No-Vegetable-7172

Omg I’m glad you’re still here!!


hxnimetv

please don’t do anything to yourself, can you talk to me for a minute?


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Child laws in your country The state shall protect and guarantee basic children’s rights in all spheres of public life for all groups of children in view of the age, social status, physical, health and mental development, as providing appropriate economic, social and cultural environment, education, freedom of expression and security. (3) The state policy for child protection shall be determined by the Council of Ministers, which shall adopt a national programme for child protection, proposed by the minister of labour and social policy and the chairperson of the state agency for child protection.


hxnimetv

you do, i will listen. just tell me everything that you would like to tell someone


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hxnimetv

It’s okay. It’s okay to be tired from life. It’s okay not wanting to exist. But it’s also important to remember that in situations like those it’s better to get some help, everyone would love to help you. I have a question- are you able to go outside? If yes, how about trying to go on a walk and look at the moon? While walking you can call the number 112 and tell them about the whole situation. They WILL help and they are going to take care of you. I promise.


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hxnimetv

Why? Is there any reason?


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Child protection shall rest on the following principles: 1. recognition and respect for the child's personality; 2. the child shall be brought up in a family environment; 3. the interests of the child shall be secured in the best possible way; 4. special protection shall be provided to children at risk or to children of prominent talent; 5. voluntary participation in child protection activities shall be encouraged; 6. persons directly involved in child protection activities shall be selected in accordance with their personal qualities and social communication abilities, and with care as to their professional training 7. restrictive measures shall be of temporary nature; 8. child protection actions shall be of immediate nature; 9. elaboration of a National strategy for the child; 10. the effectiveness of measures undertaken shall be controlled.


throwaway332376

You’re from republic, right?


ireallywantsomechips

OP please don’t go. Your children need you, you need them. Let them be your hope. I know it’s hard only living for someone else but I believe you can turn your life around, if god won’t help let us help


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I hope you are still around.


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HammerTim81

So you can fight! I’m very happy actually that you made it out of the darkest place. I came to this subreddit yesterday sort of by accident, before going to bed, and I felt sick and worried about you all night, vowing never to visit this subreddit again, but I wanted to make sure you made it… now turn things around! Edit: I actually was sort of hoping you were trolling, however sick that would be.


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HammerTim81

This is a good time to make plans. To make things better, but also to make sure you have a support system in case you have a setback. Please please talk about a professional about this. We are just redditors. People like you, in similar situations, have made it out of the woods and are now living happy lives. This can be you in a couple of months / years. Believe it and reach out like you have reached out to us. We all care about you.


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HammerTim81

I’m not the right person to help you with this, I lack the patience, expertise and empathy for it. But there is help for you out there and I want to say I am immensely proud of you that you made it this far. Now you need to ride this momentum, please reach out to professionals and take massive action to turn this around like others like you have done before.


HammerTim81

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines I will not be reading this sub anymore from now on, because I feel it isn’t good for my own mental health. I truly wish you the best and as a parent myself I hope, trust and believe you will make the right choices and take the right actions not only for yourself but also for your family. Above is a list of hotlines you can call in your country. Calling a hotline and working with them to then take next steps (very important) to take control of your life and your children would be a GREAT second step (after your AMAZING success in getting through your darkest moment yesterday, regardless of how you did it). Good luck I truly wish you the best and I BELIEVE IN YOU and your future.


efermi

So glad you’re still here. Rooting for you!


ubiitema666

Cuz you're strong♥️♥️♥️


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ubiitema666

This fucker who abused you is nothing.


DeprivedOfCummiies

Everyone on this sub sucks for attacking you, by the way. I hope they suffer worse than you do someday but I’m glad you’re still kicking, bud. I seriously was gonna cry. This shit fucked me up. I know you can figure this out! You’ll get help and thing will change for you and your babies! You have to believe that!


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throwaway332376

Everything changes with time, nothing stays the same especially if you keep fighting for that change


HammerTim81

My god this makes me so incredibly sad, as a father. Please don’t add to their suffering by taking away their mom. Fight through this


DigCorrect777

Call the cops please. Do everything in your power, even as a last ditch effort, to help them. Even if its just a call. Its something.


DigCorrect777

They cant do this without you. If they live through this, itll just end in them following in your footsteps. My big brother passed and he was the only one I ever felt safe around, and I struggle living without him, but I know he didn’t do it to himself, but if he did I know I wouldnt make it. Keep going for your kids. They need you.


OrthodoxUnconscious

Oh fuck, this made me cry. My Dad was to me what brother was to you and I absolutely feel your pain. Parents divorced when I was a kid, and I had very little time after I turned eighteen to spend with Dad before cancer took him. And now life is fucked. And my hero has been dead for a while now. It has just been so hard and I know my younger siblings would be hurt if I gave up. God Bless you and I am so sorry for your loss. Just sharing your short comment might have reminded someone that they have people that care even if they think they’re alone.


DigCorrect777

Im sorry for your loss as well, my younger brother is what keeps me going too. I couldnt imagine being a reason to why he’d take his own life, even if I was in the worst pain imaginable... if I can help it I’m staying, and for your siblings you have no idea, even if they dont say it, how grateful they are. Its suicide prevention in of itself.


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Jumpy_Activity9293

it’s been 6h. Are you okay? please stay


Oinkus42069

If you are still around, don't do it


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Uprise7

Don't give up on your kids they need you!I also had a jerk,gambler father and i know life gets shitty every now and then but don't make permanent decisions that definetly will leave your kids broken.


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Uprise7

What made you do this to yourself in the first place?


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Uprise7

Well this world is full of narcissists and psychos some peoples presence makes me wanna jump out of the window they are like walking,talking death.Spend less time with such people and be more selfish,you need to take care of yourseof first and learn to love yourself.It isn't your fault that you have low self image..


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Uprise7

Atleast remember that you are the number 1 person that can save you and your kids,you have that power,strenght,courage to do that.My mom did the same when i was 6yo.My father owed money to the mob but i don't want to give too much info..we almost ended up homeless or dead because of him.If it wasn't for my mom i would end up on the streets..or dead idk


No-Vegetable-7172

To the OP: even if you can’t save them, just being there for them, exactly as you are, is helping them more then you will ever know, until they are old enough to save themselves. Please stay! <3


Uprise7

Does he control them?Abuse them phisicaly or mentaly?Is he a helicopter parent?


cumssss

Please stay for your kids. Please.


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Reduric

I stay alive for mine. They'll need you. Speaking from experience.


AtashiRain

You need to dig deep. So no ones listened to you before? Make them listen. Someone who has made you feel this way does not deserve your kids. Which is where they will end up if you don’t shout. And scream. And make them safe with every last breath you have. Do. Not. Give. Up. On. Them. Make sure they know that you did everything in your power to give them the life they deserve.


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throwaway332376

Please don’t man I’m wanting to see all your posts to see you doing well and if you stop making posts I’m not gonna be able to sleep, please stay here man I’ll do anything to help, tell us your father information, anything that we can contact the police


DEATH_IS_N3AR

Are u still alive bro? Dont do it please.


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DEATH_IS_N3AR

Nah brother stay alive for a longer time.


throwaway332376

For the love of god please don’t man, call the police, don’t let them do nothing, if you tell them that they’ve got to do something or something bad will happen then they will do something, my mum was in your situation and she was able to put us in foster care for a few months away from both parents to have a break


Saivernaro

this is so unbearable to read, I survived thrice and I hope I don’t survive the next time. At least you tried your best and I don’t think I can do anything to try to stop you.


destinedwarrior998

I cannot possibly imagine the pain you are going through and maybe I have no right to tell you this,but I still want to let you know that It was not your fault. And please know that your children can heal. It may sound impossible right now but believe me the universe sometimes works in mysterious ways. It is not permanent damage in any way. They will eventually heal when they will know that their mother's love was and is always with them. It makes a big difference.


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destinedwarrior998

Please stay. Healing is still possible.


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Uprise7

The tunnel vision sucks and hurts too..


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oxnikkii

stay for them. please please please please stay for them. you can. i know you can. i KNOW you can. dont give up on them they NEED you. please stay for them if nothing else. please please please, they need you. they absolutely need you, and so does this world. i just lost my dad and it fvcking hurts so much, dont leave them. please dont leave them. just stay. at least for tomorrow. and then tomorrow see if you can stay for the next day. just stay.


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oxnikkii

good. may i ask how old they are? if you dont want to tell me thats okay, but im assuming theyre young. it will always be possible for your kids AS LONG as they have their mama as a safe space. if i didnt have my mama i dont know what i would do, id just drown. dont leave them, because they will probably follow your actions, and if they dont follow your actions theyre still guaranteed a life of pain because they dont have their safe space anymore. ik you said the police wont help, but your kids are in danger, tell them your husband is likely to kill your kids and youre wanting to kill yourself, they will HAVE to do something. You wouldnt be lying, and hell, if you did lie, so what?? you have to save yourself and those babies, no matter how you do it, you have to be on this earth for them and keep them on this earth whether you have to lie, cheat, steal, anything. you have to be there for them. that is your responsibility. you can handle it. even if it means dropping everything else, i can tell youre juggling a lot, so if you have to drop your studies and the church and your hobbies to save yourself and your babies then do it. at all costs, be here for them. is there a way we can all be sure youre okay, do you have an emergency contact for us? if not, thats okay, i understand and respect your privacy, i just dont want you to go, i really truly dont. i might just be some stranger, but i so desperately want you and your children to be a part of this world, because theres good here, and you all deserve it.