By - i4776
It's okay im 24 and I'm pathetic
But happy bday bb
thanks, means a lot to me :)
Another failure here, wishing you a Happy birthday.
Thank you c:
I appreciate it c:, Anhedonia? I can't even really imagine what that'd be like, I'm sorry you have to live with it. ;-;
Happy Birthday, my friend! 🎂🎊🎈
I’m sorry you’ve been suffering from severe social anxiety. It’s a bitch and people who have never suffered from it have no idea how debilitating it is. Also, Im sorry nobody but your mom wished you a happy birthday. The same thing happened on my 23rd birthday, my friends totally forgot and I felt like I was completely ignored and unimportant. Please don’t give up! It’s ok that you haven’t done what you envisioned for yourself the past several years but you’ve got many years ahead of you and you can work on changing and improving your situation.
thank you, you don’t know how much I appreciate what you’ve said
You're welcome, I hope you are doing OK today. 💜
Excellent gamer tho
I try to be
Happy Birthday to you! I hope you have a nice rest of your day. My birthday is coming up in a week and a half and I’m dreading it really, turning 30 lol…
I’m in the same kind of boat as you with my social anxiety (unable to work and have had it since 15 years old) and feel like I’m lagging behind in life, it really sucks. It affects so many aspects of your life - but we can do this! Try to take it one small step or situation at a time, that tends to help me a bit :) do you have any hobbies you enjoy at home?
Thank you :), I appreciate you saying this, if you can remain hopeful then I should be able to aswell, (didn't mean for that to come across as mean in any way) All I really do is just get an impulse to play a game, play it an unhealthy amount for a few weeks, then lose interest and rewatch friends on netflix, does that count as a hobby?
I’m 20 too, and I have no illness and yet I’m a trash. Don’t worry, happy birthday! If I’m still alive, I’ll make sure to wish you on your 21st birthday too. Stay strong bud
Hey man don't call yourself that, you were nice just now, wished me a happy birthday and you didn't have too, you aren't trash, you're nice. Stay strong too my friend, ❤️, and thanks
Thanks for calling me nice bud, i cried a little reading your reply. Thank you.
Thank you :), they really did, easily the best birthday I’ve had in the last 5-6 years because of people like you. 😊
Happy Birthday, I hope that things will go well for you soon.
Thank you, I appreciate it c:
21 here. My "friends" never do anything for my birthday either. You're not alone. Hang in there.
I'll, try, sorry about your "friends", you deserve better <3.
Happy Birthday! 🎂 You’ve got PLENTY of time to “do something.” Try not to be hard on yourself.
Thanks man c:, yeah sorry my post was probably a little vague I was just, you know. Clock is ticking though, every new +1 to my age is just another +10 to the pressure.
I hope the anxiety situation improves as I struggle with it too and it’s awful. Just don’t put too much pressure on yourself!
Thanks :), hopefully it will someday, and I hope you're also able to come to a point where you don't have to struggle with it.
Happy birthday :))
Thank youuuu c:
Happy Birthday 🤗!
Thank you <3
Happy Birthday, friend. 🎂🎉
I am turning 21 in two months and I know exactly how you feel.
Thanks! :), well like ktk80 said, we still have plenty of time.
happy birthday! hope we can pass through this shit :)
Thank you c:, I hope we can too, stay strong my friend. <3
I'm gonna be 20 in 3 months. Also did nothing in my life. Buttt, a very Happy Birthday to you 🎂🎁🎉🎈🕯🍰 have some cake, watch your favourite movies and listen to your favourite songs. Have a great day!
Thank you! I really appreciate it c:
I turn 20 in 2 weeks and I’m absolutely terrified. I’ve been locked in my home since I left school sophomore year and I don’t know what to do with myself. I haven’t finished school, no job, no friends. I have so much anxiety just thinking of walking my dog down the street. I feel
Like once I turn 20, being isolated isn’t going to go well and be burdensome to my family. I feel like I should’ve died when I was 16 and since that didn’t go the way I wanted I’m just barely here.
I wish I could give you some honest words of encouragement here, but I'm genuinely in the same boat, I haven't been outside or anything, I didn't graduate either, but hey, I'm still here, whether it's to the benefit of those around me or not I'm unsure, but if there is a future for me, then at least I have a chance to look for it.
Thank you, I'm sorry you're having to go through this shit together too, but, if anything the people in these comments have reminded me that there are others that have the same issues, and have improved, so it at least sparked some hope in me, maybe it could do the same for you? I'm not sure, but thank you 🧡
Done nothing at 20 years old...that sounds exactly where you should be. I don't know who your comparing your very young life to, but you need to stop. Doing "nothing" at 20 years old is not a problem. Life isn't instant. It takes time and effort.
I mean I haven't gone outside in 5 years, I haven't graduated secondary school, I haven't talked to a stranger, I haven't had the neccessary development someone usually requires between the ages of 15-20. I don't mean to come across as agressive but that doesn't seem like that's a place someone my age "should" be.
Are you disabled? A hostage? Juvie/prison? The world sucks. People suck. So what. I hate my life. I hate this world. The majority of people suck and they don't know it. None of that stops me, and so many others, from going out into it. You have to be brave. Bravery doesn't exist without fear. Even with all my negativity towards everything...go out and try. It's worth it.
soon i will be 20 too and i already feel..you know.
and a very happy birthday to you!!
I’m with you my friend, thank you ❤️
Happy birthday, friend!
Life's complete shit sometimes, and that is okay. Just don't forget the other end of the tunnel, you have your whole life ahead of you. Best of luck. <3
Thank you, kind of you to say <3
same her my last was horrible because its a symbolic year next as well i might off myself next year
No, don't, as much as I wish I would've already, I have a modicum of hope left I think deep down, I just hope you can find some too.
Thank you :)
Happy Birthday!! I hope the this year will be better for you
Thanks, I appreciate it c:
I know the feeling. Believe me. Just know that you have time. 💜
Happy birthday 🎁🎈🎉🎂
Thank you!! <3
I’ve been crying at every birthday since the age of 20. And I’m 23, still having a hard time, but finally going somewhere. You got this babe, we’re here for you 🥰
Yay, glad you're getting somewhere! Proud of you :), and thanks :3
Happy birthday op. I hope that the next year is better for you.
Thanks man! c:
Hey I don’t even care about bdays lol just another day to me xD but happy birthday man! What’s your Venmo I will send you 20$ if you give it to me
Nah it's ok mate, keep your money, you just wishing me a happy birthday was enough, :,) ❤️
I feel you. Feel like the world vs me so I chose the dark side. It helps. Gym is my sanctuary . Love yourself only. Whatever is takes haha but now it’s just like whatever I’m so broken down that I do not fckn care anymore lol
Happy Birthday!! I hope the day brings you something to smile about. I’ll be 40 next month, and despite wishing I could do something cool for the big 4-0 (and by “cool”, I mean a 90s theme bday party at a roller rink lol), I’m fairly certain I’ll be sitting at home, celebrating with just my parents and little brother :/
I feel like we put too much on birthdays…tv and movies have convinced us that they’re supposed to be huge wild celebrations. But I say do something that makes you happy—whether that’s ordering your favorite takeout, or reading a new book you’ve been looking forward to. But whatever you do, I hope it brings you joy! 🎉
Yeah you're probably right, there's quite a bit of pressure on them, I did get chinese today so that was nice, everyone here really cheered me up today. Is there anyway you could go to a roller rink with your little brother? (Oh and thank you ❤️)
Ooh, Chinese food! My go-to as well! :) I hope it was tasty! (I think the last time I got it for my birthday, the chicken was dry lol)
There is definitely a lot of pressure, especially on milestone birthdays! Like, if you don’t have huge balloons with a color theme, a fancy-ass cake, and 300 of your “closest” friends there to sing to you, it’s somehow not a birthday. Well screw that—it’s your day, so you spend it how you want! :)
And thank you :) my brother is special-needs, so if I took him skating, it would probably just be a test of my patience lol. Maybe I’ll just hold off and try to do that for my 41st…. Give me some more time to make friends to attend… and also for this damn pandemic to stop making it difficult to be in the same building as others!
I’m glad to hear everyone on here cheered you up and brightened your day. The internet can but full of crap so often, but it can also be full of kindness sometimes 💜
happy birthday man!!
i've been the same for my entire teen and adult life. i still haven't done anything, and i'm not sure if i could even do so, to be honest. everything about life feels so out of touch, and everything that feels real and right to me is only bottled up inside.
rationally, i don't think i can last another decade. everything seems hopeless right now, but i still try to take things a day at a time; as much as i can. the change is so very small, but i still learn and grow everyday (i think) so i'm sure you can get through this too!
Thanks man! I hope you do make it through the next decade, the next century even, you deserve to thrive my friend. Thanks again c: ❤️
Happy Birthday champ 🥳
Did you go to high school? Try being mid 30's and feeling that way. I know it's hard to see it but you've still got plenty of time. I hope you feel better.
I did go to secondary school but I had to drop out in year 10 because my mental health had declined so much, and as such I have nothing to put on a resume to apply for a job or really anything to look forward too. I love academia and I'm ashamed I didn't do as well as I feel I should've. I'm sorry man, I didn't mean for my post to come across as me thinking that my life is completely lost, I understand people have it worse, and I am still young, but it's hard to see it sometimes you know?
Happy Birthday. Very sorry. Keep going. I assume you live in the USA. Life expectancy is 70 years. You have 50 years to do something with your life. Do not give up. I also suffer from anxiety and I know what you are going through.
Luckily I'm from the UK so I have 3 extra years in terms of life expectancy lol, I hope things can improve for us mate, thanks for wishing me happy birthday 🧡
Heeey beautiful human being! I’m here to congratulate you!
20 years and a week ago we where waiting for someone like you!
Don’t forget that I love you forever and always.
Aww thank you, that was really nice 🧡
You’re always welcome. I’m glad my message was a little help.
I’m 24 and in the same boat as you. Happy birthday btw 🎂 I really hope things get better for you.
I'm sorry mate, I hope things can get better for us, no matter what our subconscious tells us, we deserve to have a fulfilling life, thanks for wishing me happy birthday! 🧡
Happy Birthday and remember. The only thing we really have to do is simply exist. The Natives lived off the land. The English conquered and built factories. You're comparing it to societal standards. You are a human being and you matter. You can do what you want, just take this time to grow. You're okay.
Yeah you're right to be fair, thanks for wishing me happy birthday c:
Happy birthday!🍰 I'm sorry to hear you have and had to experience so much pain being so young. You're already doing a lot by not giving up for your mother. You're strong and mentioning her shows you're a kind soul. Don't be too hard on yourself please you're going through a lot already. Nowadays there are a lot of online self-paced courses about a lot of different subjects. So please take it easy 💛
Happy birthday again! Enjoy your day!
Thank you man, your comment made me smile, I appreciate it c: 🧡
Thanks It really makes me happy to read that ☺️
I turned 20 in july and I'm fucking so close to ending it...
Happy Birthday! We strangers on the internet do care about you. You got this, wish you all the best! Do you have any plans? I was alone on my birthday a couple weeks ago too but I went to a restaurant by myself and it was kind of nice. Not even my best friends remembered my birthday, which hurt like hell. I made the best out of it though, and I hope you can too.
I'm glad you managed to enjoy your birthday despite your shitty friends. I never made plans, I usually just sit and be miserable on my birthdays, more of a day of intense self ridicule than one of celebration for me, but this birthday has been the best one I've had in the last 5-6 years that's for sure, because of nice people like you! Thanks again! 🧡
Happy Birthday! 🍻
I celebrated my Birthday this month fixing a sink. Turned 34 and I feel approximately 119 😆. I
If you’re 20, I highly recommend skydiving. Might have saved my life!
Thank you man! Skydiving? I'd definitely have a heart attack midair anyway lmao
20 is when people start to really flourish and develop their identity. You have your whole 20s to fill with memorable experiences. I am in the same boat as you but I'm 31 and have wasted my entire 20s in anxiety and depression. I will never get those years back but you still can make the most out of it.
I hope I can, thank you man I really appreciate messages like these, they remind me that it could be worse and I should, well, be better. (Sorry if that came across as rude I didn't mean it that way)
you're just 20, a 23 over here about to be 24 in few days and I haven't done anything with my life hehe, it's gonna be alright this will pass I'm sure, have a nice day ♥️
Happy early birthday, I hope you can still enjoy your birthday, even if it's something really tiny, everyone deserves to. Thanks for the wishes my friend c:
Hi! Fellow 20s with social anxiety and illnesses here to wish u a happy birthday 🥳🎉🎉
Thank you! :3
happy birthday!! i know birthdays suck and they can be so emotional but i hope you can enjoy yourself because you deserve it <3 go treat yourself and do something you love.
Thank you, and I did, had some nice chinese food, but I'm honestly thankful to everyone here, genuinely made my day, everyone who decided to comment. Thanks again for jelping improve a strangers day, c:
Thank you :3
20 and turning 21 and still haven't done anything in my life and still I don't know where i am going or what I'm i doing with my life... Don't worry, we are average and it is fine..
Yeah mate I've been 20 since May 2021 and I feel like a waste of space too. My 20th birthday was really good, but that's only because I was drunk out of my mind and avoiding all of my responsibilities and problems.
As for your empty resume, I completely feel you. I have A levels and GCSEs but my performance in them was horrible and they are hardly anything to flex about. Because of mental illness I've avoided working jobs too and haven't done any volunteering so to any employer I'd look like a complete joke.
I literally had to write about the ebay business I run on my most recent CV because I had fuck all to put lmao.
Ooh an eBay business, that sounds interesting at least. I never managed to even sit my GCSE's, so I thought if I ever applied for a job I'd just hand them an andrex, I mean it'd be more useful realistically.
Happy birthday! I hope you have or had a good one. I have severe social anxiety so I understand how you feel. It’s honestly shit. I’m sorry to hear that no one has wished you a happy birthday besides your mom. At least you know now that those people aren’t genuine if that helps
Yeah it has actually, it's a shame, I thought they were better, perhaps I'll come up with a better vetting process lol, and yeah you're right it is shit ay. Thanks for the wishes 🧡
Happy birthday! You’ve survived 20 years of life in a really tough world. For some people that may come easy but for a lot of us that is a massive challenge. So to me, you’ve done a lot! Head up my friend :)
I appreciate that mate, thank you, stay safe c: 🧡
Hey we're both 20! Happy birthday!
Thank you! :D
Happy Birthday, my young friend! I'm really sorry that you're suffering from social anxiety, it can be so debilitating. I definitely can't imagine what it's like to be stuck at home for 5 years, but I think I can relate a little on the social anxiety front. I've suffered from terrible, paralyzing anxiety, and when I was a teenager into my 20s it was very isolating. I would worry about even going to the store and having interactions with the cashier because I wouldn't know what to say and I'd constantly criticize myself in my head. I hope you are able to get therapy. I can't promise it will fix everything. I still have profound anxiety. But it's much more manageable now with therapy and medication. I realize you have other illnesses also, so I don't want to minimize your suffering. Please take care and stay with us!
Thank you, honestly, I hope that when I get the motivation to get myself a therapist it'll be as benefitial to me as it has been for you, thanks for the happy birthday my friend. 🧡
You're welcome, I very much hope you find happiness because you definitely deserve it! A good therapist can really make a huge positive difference. You shouldn't have to fight these battles on your own.
God bles you man
I'm going through the same thing as well. I don't even leave my house or talk to people because of my social anxiety, so I'm just stuck in my bed all day. I haven't felt any motivation to do anything in around two or three years now and I'm kind of just stuck in a loop. Haven't even had my first job and I'll be turning 20 in november.
I honestly just hope that my my family would forget about my birthday so I wouldn't have to feel so bad about it.
But Happy Birthday to you, I hope me saying this doesn't make you feel bad. Even though you think that birthdays bring a new low every year, I still would want to wish you a happy birthday. You should at least receive something as simple as that.
No, no not at all, I'm literally in the same situation, I don't leave my house or talk to people either, hell this post and these comments are the first people I've spoken to in the last month or so, I don't have any motivation anymore either honestly mate, being like this has sapped it out of me. But, we have to rely on even the most remote inkling of hope that we may still have left that our lives will improve. Thanks for wishing me happy birthday mate, and I hope that yours goes as well as it can for you when it comes. c:
I might be late but
Thank you! 🧡
Well happy early birthday! I hope that you can find some way to enjoy it, even if it's just a little bit, I hope it goes well. c:
Happy birthday, you’re not alone! It’s honestly amazing to see how many have come out to wish you well. Hopefully this is a great virtual birthday party so far!
Yeah it is, I'm truly thankful to everyone who's said something kind to me, best birthday I've had in the last 5-6 years honestly, I appreciate you wishing me a happy birthday c:
Happy birthday! Like others are saying, you’re young, you’ve got a lot of time to do what you want in life.
Thank you, you’re right, but 25% of my life thus far has been wasted, so I can get hopeless.
Clearly we have different perspectives about this. I challenge you to look at the 75% of life still left as an opportunity. I know that’s easier said than done but it’s coming from someone who always looked at things as the glass half-empty. I didn’t even start my dream career until I was 31. Go be a boss with the time you have, you’ve got this!
Turned 28 a while ago, I have also done nothing with my life.
Hopefully we’ll get there my friend, while hope is dangerous it’s necessary. ❤️
Thanks for words of encouragement.
Happy birthday!!! And honestly, isn't it great that your mom wishes you happiness already?
I think we should focus on the quality more than the quantity here haha!
And well, do you have to do something? Why must we do something to be or feel enough? Isn't our existence enough already? The answer is yes. As long as you do good deeds instead of wrong doings of course~
Also, we now live in the age of modern technology, we can do so many things from a distance, in the comfort of our homes, so for now just think about healing and getting better, looking at the things we can be grateful for has personally helped me a lot so I'd recommend it, it was an advice from a psychologist and it works well, of course life has its highs and lows but, as long as we strive to see it for what it is, failure as lessons and opportunities to learn more about ourselves and this world, it becomes a thousand times more bearable and fun, I hope you can find the good that you can do in this world, because I'm certain you can do way more than what you think you can, it's hard to believe in yourself from the get go, even I'm struggling with it, but you've survived till now, you're strong, I know you can do it, and you're not alone! Your mom is with you, right~?
Treat her and yourself right, and help each other out, a small kindness in this cold world can do wonders, keep your head up high, while still making a sturdy foundation on this earth for you to get stronger and leap from, don't forget that success is what you define it as, if for you it's being happy with friends and family, then do just that! If it's having a farm and tending to it, then do that too, also, we're all bad at things we do for the first time, we all had to learn his to talk and walk before being able to do it and we fell way too much to count in the process, the importance is to keep trying, it's fine to feel low sometimes and even give up for a few days or weeks or even months, as long as you come back and progress at your own pace in and towards the right path (a path that's filled with good deeds not wrong doings), then you'll see it too, you'll feel it in your soul, what you were born to do in this life.
Enjoy the ride friend!
Thank you for this, that’s honestly really helpful advice, I should be more appreciative of the ones who care rather than more upset about the ones who didn’t. Thank you 😊
Happy birthday! I'll be 21 soon, I've also done nothing. I hope you had a nice day op! 💖🎉💫🎂
I did! Thanks for being here for it! ❤️
Happy birthday! Sending you love and hope! I am currently going through it right now and having a super hard time functioning because of my anxiety, feeling alone and like a failure. I may not know your whole situation but I can empathize with you. Don't give up! You're not alone, you are loved and important and I'm wishing you all the best. 🖤
31 here. I lost the bulk of my twenties to mental illness (bipolar disorder, anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia, cognitive issues stemming from medications and bipolar disorder) but I’m making a comeback now. Getting a simple freight stocking job at walmart really helped me overcome a lot of my social anxiety, which developed from years of staying inside, and I also made a lot of friends just by having the will to simply look out for my coworkers and be helpful. I tried to forget my problems by focusing on others. Did it make my problems go away? No. But I have more confidence and carry myself with more dignity and purpose now. I work hard, love my coworkers, and that helps me love myself more in spite of who I am on paper. It’s a simple life and that’s okay.
Wow, I’m sorry you lost a bulk of your life to this garbage, but you’re improving my friend, I hope you’re ok. ❤️
turned 20 in may and i get this
Sorry I wasn’t there to wish you a happy birthday my friend. ❤️
I had the type of birthday the past few years(23).
Sometimes birthdays don't need to be big. Sometimes it could just be a bubble bath or even a sleep all day.
Society is stupid and puts so much pressure and weight on birthdays so when it doesn't go our way we feel like shit.
I've had a lot of bad birthdays. The best ones I've had is where I celebrated a lone with a shitty oven pizza playing old video games.
(Not because I wanted to)
But sometimes small things can help yourself feel less like a sack of shit.
Yeah you’re right, just sometimes the thousands of small things coalesce into something horrible. A day playing old games sounds fun though at least. ❤️
U didn't do nothing....in fact u did at least 20 things. And thats a big accomplishment, I haven't even done those 20 things yet
You will, I hope you can stay strong, it’s important that you’re here. ❤️
idk who said you have to do something by 20, but they’re wrong.
I grew up well and had opportunities, but I didn’t even know what was truly best for me until 22.
Everyone’s different and gets dealt different cards. You’ve got your own battles my dude that others won’t understand. Don’t listen to anyone who calls you a loser and keep doing what you need to do the best you can
Thank you man :,)
Thank you! 😊
Don't feel bad, I'm way older than you and I know what that is like. I hope you have a great birthday!
Thanks for being comforting and kind man ❤️
I know this doesn’t help but please see someone and try to fix this my best friend is going through this amd it’s getting out of control
I’m trying my friend, I’m sorry about your best mate, I hope he can get the help he needs, you’re a good friend to him.
Happy birthday! Hope everything will be fine for you (:
Hope you’re doing ok too, thanks for wishing me happy birthday, nice of you 😊❤️
Happy birthday ✨🎂
Thanks man ❤️
Happy birthday! I'm 23 and I've still done nothing. Flunked out of Uni. Life can still go on, you just need to know what you want out of it :(
Thank you c:, hopefully we can figure out shit soon ay?
Happy birthday dude 🎇 🎉 20 is young still. You're still getting to know you. When you find out what you want and what you like, you'll find your tribe. It's ok for that tribe to be online too.
Thanks :), hope some of the people in my future tribe are as nice as the people here.
There's plenty of great people around man. Sure there's shitheads too, but good people are easy to find if you look.
Remember, it's totally ok to feel a little lost sometimes. Hell I'm 36 and have alot of the same “wtf am I doing with my life?" moments too. Less so than my 20s, but it's definitely part of being human.
I hope you find your tribe soon, but I'm glad you came here to open up so you could see there's people out there that love even strangers and want to make their days better. <3
I really appreciate you saying this man, honestly, thank you. ❤️
Happy to and wish you all the best ❤️
While you are right, I suppose, I'm not sure if this is blissful ignorance, tough love or just insensitivity, I haven't been outside in 5 years man, it's terrifying to me. I'm sure you had good intentions but it came across really harsh ;-;
Hey I’m going on 20 and feel like shit every day of my life and don’t know what to do for the most part. You’re not alone. Every day is a work in progress, my friend. :) progress does not mean perfection I always tell myself.
I've never been to anyone who can diagnose anything officially for me (I have my parents to thank for always avoiding or "forgetting" to help for years), but-
I understand how you feel. I'll be 21 in a few months and have never amounted to anything close to what people a lot younger have :] I still don't like to do anything but hide in my room, stay in bed, and play games with my gf and cuddle our pets. My gf's the only reason I've gotten farther than I was in life without her, and the only reason I can be here today.
I'm sorry that you're at a low point right now. Usually I just lurk Reddit silently, but I really want to give you my support even though we're just Reddit strangers lol. Might be cheesy, but I believe there's always a way through and someone or something that will help get you there. You're here, and this random redditor is glad you are. I'd absolutely be your friend and talk you up every birthday if it'd bring a little bit more shine to your sun c:
Honestly, online communities or even a select few people can be the greatest thing to happen to people. My gf was just a random teammate on Xbox some 500 miles away before, and now we live together and get by day by day together.
Easier said than done, but try to focus more on the little things that make every day worth while. Even something that might seem insignificant can be enough to bring you happiness that'll carry you farther than you'd think. You deserve to be happy no matter what others might or might not think/say/do. This isn't all that there is for you in life. I hope your days get brighter and brighter as they continue to come <3
(Sorry for the small essay, I'm shy/awkward, but also love written expression 😅)
I'm also a worthless trash