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My parents saw my ace flag in my room and yelled at me for it because they’re ace phobic.

My parents saw my ace flag in my room and yelled at me for it because they’re ace phobic.

Floor-tank

I legit do not understand how people can have a problem with that. Given that you live at home, I'm going to assume that you are at an age where they don't *want* you too be having sex!


crazyaceinspace

Yeah, I’m 16, turning 17. They found out about me being ace my ***going through my messages with a friend without my knowledge*** and now are giving me hell about how “I wouldn’t know” because “I haven’t tried anything”. That’s basically like telling someone who’s gay that they don’t know they’re gay because they haven’t given the other genders “a try”. It’s super frustrating lol


CelikBas

Ask them how they can be sure they’re straight if they haven’t had gay sex before.


crazyaceinspace

I SHOULD, but then again I’m not sure I wanna know the answer to that considering I’m a sex repulsed asexual lol


Floor-tank

Oh they won't give you details. I've seen/had this conversation more times than I care to count: Allo: don't worry, you'll eventually start feeling attraction to people; you're just a late bloomer. Ace: look, are you attracted to [sex of allo] people? Allo: no, I'm straight. Ace: but there's a reason you know that, right? I'm going to guess it's because the idea of being sexually intimate with [men/women] is revolting to you, right? Allo: pretty much, yeah. Ace: I feel that way toward people of all genders. How is that different? Allo: that's different, because I'm attracted to [women/men]. Ace: right, and that makes you allosexual, along with your fellow straights, gays, bis, etc. I'm not. Allo: that doesn't make any sense. Everyone's attracted to SOMEONE. Ace: nope, simple as that. Take a while to digest that, we'll come back to it another time. If you want to assign them some reading, point them to [this Wikipedia page](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Institut_f%C3%BCr_Sexualwissenschaft). Asexuality isn't a new thing, but the Nazis literally burned all the research. It is no accident that people don't know much about asexuality and asexuals. A lot of people have tried very hard to erase us. Edit: if their problem with non cishetero folk is based in a religious worldview, you might have some luck with the "immune from temptation to sin" approach.


crazyaceinspace

Thank you so much. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with people like that too. And yes, late bloomer is def something I’ve been called :/


LucianoLetsLose

or ask em if theve eaten \[food that is uncommen and prbly viewed as nasty in ur culture\] like snails, or bull dick or smth chances are they havent, and then u can also pull uno reverse on em


crazyaceinspace

Oy that’s an excellent idea!!


FriendlyFiber

They miiiight be freaking out because they think you won’t give them grandkids now. Just a thought.


Cl0udbreak

If they’re that entitled, they should adopt already-existing-kids. If they want grandkids so bad it’s their own responsibility to adopt and raise them (or you know, even better would be by improving their roles as parents and treating op with respect and decency) Besides being an absolutely selfish thing to feel entitled to it horrifies me when I hear parents treating their own kids like this. Your kid isn’t your property and/or mini me; they’re their own unique person and deserve at minimum respect as an individual


crazyaceinspace

I agree lol, thank you for your comment


apollli

Youre not alone. Im 20, and im a uni student living in another city atm. Every time i talk to my parents they ask me when im gonna find a boyfriend and give em grandkids. Every time i tell em im not interested in that stuff, they passively agressively try to convince me that im wrong and ill regret later


Axo_Dude

I have an Ace flag in my room but no one seems to care about it because they don't even understand what that is lol , but if they know they won't be pleasant :'|


crazyaceinspace

Oh gosh. I wish the absolute best for you, people can be insanely weird ;-;


adventurer907505307

Im sorry this happened to you sinding you all the hugs!


crazyaceinspace

Thank youuuuuuu


Jamie5279752

Feed them to the dragon


crazyaceinspace

Yes. The dragon is hungry.


Someguy12378

Yes I'm- erm, the dragon is very hungry go feed ~~me~~ it


crazyaceinspace

Y e s


Cl0udbreak

Aw I’m really sorry for you :/ it’s a shame that they can’t be supportive or at least respectful as I don’t see anything wrong with what you did! I’m guessing they’re just not as understanding of the spectrum of human attraction/orientation and maybe close minded to understanding this. That can make some people fearful, which leads to them feeling the need for control. Try to not let it bring you down (I know, easier said than done), sending you virtual hugs and cake/garlic bread today!


crazyaceinspace

Thank you so very much. This is amazingly supportive. I really appreciate all the kind words.


alchemic_idiot

how can people be angry at people for not having sexual attraction?


crazyaceinspace

Ugh. Idk. They act like I’m broken or something ;-;


SquidCultist002

"virginity is a virtue" and all that other stuff. Those same people: NO DONT BE ASEXUAL